I was almost that woman. Not the woman who goes for what she wants in business....that is me. Not the one who works to ensure her family's success....that is me. No...I almost joined the elite community of women who excuse the behaviors of the man in her life to not have to be alone...a man who isn't just hers, but seemingly puts her above all others.
Oh what a tangled web we weave when it is firstly ourselves we deceive. Telling ourselves that even though he is dogging us, he is like playing her...same thing ladies...same thing. I have no desire to be above all others, cause there should be no one in his sights but me. I think every woman deserves the right to be loved solo by one man who only sees, wants, and desires her. If he can talk to you, Sally, and Melondie....you are not the one, two, or three. Time to have some standards for ourselves. It is impossible to require someone to be good to you when you don't treat yourself right. And let's be clear. I am not speaking on material things. I know abusers that lace their women...so buying yourself things is not the focus...it's doing for yourself what makes you smile...feel good. If there is a thing attached to it, like getting your nails done or going to a movie, then do it. But don't look the the things by itself to make you happy.
If you are the woman who is happy just being with a man that is happy have you at the top of a food chain, please understand you are the one that is starving. You are the one that is dying....time to get off the bus Rosa (in my Madea voice). Leave that man to him mayhem. Leave them women to fight over scraps. Become whole within yourself and get you a whole person that love all of your completely...cause you should have that. No longer shall we be above all others....hard to do when you are an original......
Oh what a tangled web we weave when it is firstly ourselves we deceive. Telling ourselves that even though he is dogging us, he is like playing her...same thing ladies...same thing. I have no desire to be above all others, cause there should be no one in his sights but me. I think every woman deserves the right to be loved solo by one man who only sees, wants, and desires her. If he can talk to you, Sally, and Melondie....you are not the one, two, or three. Time to have some standards for ourselves. It is impossible to require someone to be good to you when you don't treat yourself right. And let's be clear. I am not speaking on material things. I know abusers that lace their women...so buying yourself things is not the focus...it's doing for yourself what makes you smile...feel good. If there is a thing attached to it, like getting your nails done or going to a movie, then do it. But don't look the the things by itself to make you happy.
If you are the woman who is happy just being with a man that is happy have you at the top of a food chain, please understand you are the one that is starving. You are the one that is dying....time to get off the bus Rosa (in my Madea voice). Leave that man to him mayhem. Leave them women to fight over scraps. Become whole within yourself and get you a whole person that love all of your completely...cause you should have that. No longer shall we be above all others....hard to do when you are an original......
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