Above all others

I was almost that woman. Not the woman who goes for what she wants in business....that is me. Not the one who works to ensure her family's success....that is me. No...I almost joined the elite community of women who excuse the behaviors of the man in her life to not have to be alone...a man who isn't just hers, but seemingly puts her above all others.

Oh what a tangled web we weave when it is firstly ourselves we deceive. Telling ourselves that even though he is dogging us, he is like playing her...same thing ladies...same thing. I have no desire to be above all others, cause there should be no one in his sights but me. I think every woman deserves the right to be loved solo by one man who only sees, wants, and desires her. If he can talk to you, Sally, and Melondie....you are not the one, two, or three. Time to have some standards for ourselves. It is impossible to require someone to be good to you when you don't treat yourself right. And let's be clear. I am not speaking on material things. I know abusers that lace their women...so buying yourself things is not the focus...it's doing for yourself what makes you smile...feel good. If there is a thing attached to it, like getting your nails done or going to a movie, then do it. But don't look the the things by itself to make you happy.

If you are the woman who is happy just being with a man that is happy have you at the top of a food chain, please understand you are the one that is starving. You are the one that is dying....time to get off the bus Rosa (in my Madea voice). Leave that man to him mayhem. Leave them women to fight over scraps. Become whole within yourself and get you a whole person that love all of your completely...cause you should have that. No longer shall we be above all others....hard to do when you are an original......

I am not a man

I am not sure if you have really looked at me, but if you haven't noticed.....I am not a man. I can play Rainbow 6, love football, can change a flat, and have a mean right hook, but I am not a man. I can work a job, pay bills, take out the trash, and raise sons solo if need be, but I am not a man.

And I don't want to be.......

I love being a woman, I love my natural strength to raise a family and help a man meet God and his potential. I have no desire to be Ms. Independent. That is not me. I refuse to be the poster child for successful single mothers. I am not saying that any of that is wrong, but I desire to represent what is right. A family with two parents. A woman being successful and supported by her husband. I think a beautiful thing happen when a man is a man and a woman is a woman. When we have to assume roles and positions that aren't meant for us to have, we have stress and the need to have outlets for it. In creeps in drinking, smoking, drug use, irresponsible sexual practices, suicide, homicide, and the destruction of a people.  

I know that I am speak in ideal terms and we don't live in a generally ideal world. But look at how you have been....is it really working for you? Have you lost yourself in it at all. I mean basic things like doing your hair, getting a nice lotion, taking pride in your natural God given femininity. I have seen beautiful woman take on a very manly appearance and blame life. The unfortunate truth is that unknowingly, you have allowed yourself to do this to you.

As long as you are living, you can change, grow, and be. I encourage every woman to love herself. The men and children can't be strong, productive, or progressive if we lose us. It may seem minimal, but do your hair, get some nice smelling soap, find your spiritual aroma and your divine fragrance.....

Peace & Love
~Blu